Limit Alcohol and Avoid Smoking/Substance Abuse
So you’re at another family gathering, and suddenly it’s like you’re starring in a ‘choose your own adventure’—except every path leads to someone offering you a beer, a smoke, or some mysterious ‘herbal’ gummies. Meanwhile, your toddler is watching you like you’re the season finale of their favorite show. If you’ve ever felt like you need a parenting manual and a willpower upgrade, this one’s for you. Let’s talk about keeping it clean (ish), even when your friends are still living in their college flashbacks.
For you: better sleep, clearer thinking, fewer ‘what did I say last night?’ regrets, and a generally happier brain. For your kid: a living, breathing role model who shows them that cool doesn’t require a can, a cloud, or a cocktail. Bonus: kids with parents who model healthy choices are less likely to pick up risky habits themselves, thanks to that magical thing called ‘mirror neurons’ (aka, your kid’s built-in copy machine).
How to do it
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Decide ahead of time what your limits are. Will you have one drink, or none at all? Setting a clear intention before you arrive makes it easier to stick to your plan.
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Bring your own non-alcoholic ‘fancy’ drink to social events. A seltzer with a lime wedge or a mocktail can help you feel included and show others you’re still having fun.
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Practice your “no thanks” face in the mirror. Turning down a drink or smoke gets easier with a little rehearsal, and you’ll feel more confident in the moment.
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Find a buddy who’s also skipping the booze or smoke. Having someone on your side means you won’t feel like the lone health nut at the party.
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Remind yourself: you’re not just avoiding a hangover. You’re investing in more energy for tomorrow’s toddler chase scene, or whatever else you have planned.
Tips:
- Be prepared with a polite response if someone offers you a drink.
- Focus on the social aspect of the event, not just what’s in your glass.
- Celebrate your decision and the benefits you’ll notice the next day.
